Unattainable Expectations.

My view from the coffee shop

I’ve recently adopted a habit where every Thursday lunchtime I’ll whisk myself off to my local Caffè Nero and get a small mocha with cream and a mushroom toastie.

This sacred hour every week has become a regular treat for myself which I look forward to immensely, and it’s also prompted this little burst of creativity.

That’s something I’ve noticed about coffee shops.

They’re full of creative people, all tap tapping away at their laptops. And it made me think, what happened to my blog?

To tell you the truth, I was so happy with my blog relaunch earlier in the year, it went unbelievably well, I had the best blogging experience I'd ever had.

But then I lost my mojo and got caught up in a loop of self-despair. I missed one blog post, and this turned into two, and then three, and then I disappeared and sulked about what a bad blogger I am.

Note to self: missing a blog post or three doesn’t make you a bad blogger, it just means life happened.

There’s this expectation in society today, especially for social influencers, to be online all the time. We can’t escape screens in our day to day life, whether it’s our phone, our laptop, or even the TV as we watch Netflix at the end of the day to wind down.

There’s an expectation to document everything.

There’s an expectation to post every day on social media.

If you didn’t post it, did it even happen?

And I think this is something I struggle with. Those expectations which have been set in place, which are sometimes simply unattainable because life gets in the way. And the guilt that comes with not meeting those expectations, especially as you try and carve out a little place for you to express yourself on the internet. It’s horrible. And I think we’re all fighting with it in some way.

I’ve come realize that I shouldn’t listen to this voice inside my head shouting “you haven’t posted in x amount of time, you’re rubbish!”

Instead, I’m going to let myself off the hook and set a new, attainable goal for myself.

From now on, my goal is to stop holding myself to the unattainable goals that have become the norm in the land of social media, and instead, go with the flow when inspiration strikes.

Do you ever get stuck in a bad frame of mind about your blogging or work due to the sometimes unattainable expectations found in today’s society?