Pillow Talk #14

What I've Been Loving This Week

I have been aching to write. I feel like there's been something building inside of me waiting to smash through the glass an be seen. I've been living in a little trapped cage recently pouring over ideas for blog, for my bullet journal, for my LIFE, and finally I feel ready to action them.

I'm back and it feels good.

Let's get into it...

To consider

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the last couple of months and these posts begin to scratch the surface of how I've been feeling. Adulting and growing up comes with a lot of growing pains. There's lots of decisions to be made, there's a lot of doubt, uncertainty, and worry. It can be hard to deal with and I think I'm coming out of a black hole I'd been falling into.

A post which really struck a chord with me, and definitely locks in on my uncertainty with ~life~ and if I'm making the right decision about anything at the moment, was Chloe Plumstead's post: Am I Having Enough Fun? Because I'm Worried I'm Not. Written excellently as usual, Chloe talks about refusing "to accept that going out on a Thursday night stops being a thing" - anyone who knows me knows that one of my favourite phrases this year has been "Thursday is the new Friday!". So gal, I can relate! And also this whole "chadult" thing. On the one hand I want to leap forward into the full grasps of adulthood, and be responsible and get a mortgage, have a better understanding of money and feel like I have my life together (although I don't think that ever happens), the other part of me wants to stay young, go on endless road trips, not worry about saving money and live in the now. Live by a YOLO attitude and not worry about how things will be in ten years, instead make sure I'm having the best bloody time I can now.

Easier said than done, I think.

On a different note, Lydia's post, What Happened When I Met With The A.S.A. caught my eye as although right now I'm a very small blogger, not working with brands or promoting ads on my socials, it is something I'm working towards and the collective fear I feel within the blogging community at how to 'do it right' and not get in trouble interests me. It's reassuring to find out that the A.S.A. are aware they haven't been very clear in the past and that these conversations with bloggers and influencers are taking place, to make it a better environment for everyone. That is what I want to hear and it only encourages me to keep working hard towards my blogging.

The other posts I'd like to feature in this section are all centred around the idea of looking out for yourself. Whether that be taking some time for yourself to make sure you're okay, and if you're not, taking time to just be in that headspace for a while and work through it. It's also a look a relationships, romantically and platonically. Something I've touched on in the past is how the ending of a friendship can often feel like the end of a relationship, and that's okay. It's hard but it is okay.

To visit

Last weekend I went to Dungeness with two of my bestest friends to celebrate one of their birthdays. I think in the past I've driven through Dungeness to get to another seaside location, but never actually stopped off there. Well let me tell you - it was bloody lovely! We went to a cute little chip shop/pub and had fab food, as well as a little meander on the beach at sunset. It was so flat and so empty and I just felt so free and content with everything. One of the highlights was actually the drive. We had about an hour and half drive and on the way back we essentially had an old school karaoke rave in my car. I cried happy tears.

This has given me a bit of an adventure bug. But then, when don't I have that, really? Anyway, I've been catching up with posts and found the following - all of which I now want to go and see with my own eyeballs!

I stayed at a Capsule Hotel in London Bridge - VickyFlipFlopTravels

Firstly, I've watched probably a few too many videos on YouTube than I'd like to admit of capsule hotel review in Japan and it's been on my bucket list for a while. Now I see that they've popped up in LONDON - WHERE I AM EVERY DAY? I have no choice but to drag a bestie with me and go experience this!

London Eats | Padella - Sweet Monday

One thing you might not know is that back in July I actually went to Rome, I don't think I mentioned it AT ALL on social media which is quite unlike me, but it was a good time to unwind. It was only a short break and although I had excellent food on the last day, much of it was pretty lackluster (I think I was just unlucky), so when I read this post about mouthwatering pasta so close to me (and also pretty close to that capsule hotel) I though OMG I NEED TO GO ASAP! So yeah, if you meet me for lunch or dinner soon expect to have me make you queue for this so we can try it!

I think I might be a little bit of a fangirl of Vicky :') I've got a trip to Edinburgh planned in December and am SO EXCITED. I've been trying to go for the last couple of years and this time, the timing is right and everything is booked. Except transport. Need to get on that. I'm there for four days and will happily fill it with as many cocktails as I can, whilst ticking off the must see sights!

To listen

This month I have been ~living~ for Kate Nash's recent album, Yesterday Was Forever. I got it on vinyl and honestly it is so good and just so empowering. I feel like I am Kate Nash. She's my spirit animal. If you haven't listened to her new album yet, what have you been doing?

I was also inspired by Anna's post, Monday To Friday: Suggested Podcast Listening, and have pencilled in a podcast (or two) to listen to each week day. I love podcasts and listen to so many, and thanks to that sometimes actually get a bit overwhelmed. I'm hoping that my designating one to each day I'll be able to keep on top of them all.

To read

I've just started reading Elizabeth Gilbert's Eat, Pray, Love. I know the general gist of the story from seeing the film many moons ago, but thought it was finally time to read it. Why, I hear you ask? Because I got a library card! Shocker! I've never had one before and only in the last couple of months or so found out that you can get eBooks and audiobooks from the library. Like, hello, why haven't I been doing this forever? So now I'm hoping that having that deadline of my book loan running out, I might read a bit more!

To do

I've had a lot of personal ups and downs this summer and have really struggling with knowing how to deal with it. How to come to any conclusion about anything, how to know if I'm making the right decision, and how to process things. So this week, I went and bought and actual diary. I treated myself to a lovely soft cover notebook from Paperchase and have just been off loading there, dumping every thought, every question, every doubt, and every worry onto the pages. I already feel tonnes better and more like myself. So, I'd highly recommend that if you're stressed or worried about something, write it all down! Then it's off your shoulders and gives your brain a chance to think for a bit without the thoughts rushing around your head all the time. It's definitely offered me some relief.

That sums up this week's Pillow Talk post. At the moment I'm currently deciding whether I want to go forward with keeping this as a weekly (when life doesn't get in the way) post, or making it every other week. We'll see. It's felt so nice to be blogging again though. Have a wonderful bank holiday weekend.